Thursday, September 6, 2007

For Women: Advice on Understanding Men Part II
The second article of this mini-series by Rion Williams on Understanding Men.


If you're single and want to date men, you may be wondering why you can't ever find a great guy or why the ones that do approach 'do everything wrong'.
You may also be wondering why so many men are just intimidated by you. I mean, after all you're just a human being and yet all of this male behavior looks really weird to you.
Many guys who 'approach' creep you out immediately. I want to give you some insight into male behaviorism so it can help you to have more dating success.
Many women are wondering what on earth is wrong with today's men? They seem to have no backbone, lost their confidence and show way too much interest when they first meet a woman.
If you're a really 'sexy' woman, then it's even worse. You've seen everything and it's gets really annoying.
It is hard to feel attraction for a man in those cases. Maybe you've had to settle for less just to have some sort of dating success. Even though he was still a little nervous, you gave
him a chance.
Or maybe you've just ended up with jerks who psychologically tormented you. That's not the way either. I teach men how to be natural and comfortable in their own skin in relation
to desirable women so that the women can finally open up and things can progress from there.
But why are all of these men acting like this? Why are they so nervous to approach you or when they do it's OBVIOUS they're interested in 'one thing'?
The male mind is more complex than it looks. Yes, sex is one of primary focuses or desires in life. If you're dressing sexy, you probably know what's going to happen.
You're going to attract the 'attention' of men, guaranteed.
And then you just have to 'turn down' most of them. So how do you succeed with men?
Well, you don't have any problem attracting them but they're almost all doing the wrong things becaus you don't just want sex all of the time and definitely not right up front like all of these guys are behaving.
I could say dress less sexier, but so many men still have problems dealing with women. In this area, it really comes down to the men themselves, otherwise you'll just keep looking
to find one who 'gets it' who you can trust to be himself who has good attributes instead of damaging ones.
So I don't know what else to say as far as that because you are the chooser and you're just waiting for either better options or men who are options but are behaving wrongly to get their act together; I'm working on that!
I can teach you more about their behaviorism though so you understand it. It boils down to this; men are conditioned to glorify and edify a woman's 'body' or 'sexuality'.
He puts it so far above him on a pedestal due to cultural programming and men's magazines. And then he sees this same behavior in the women around him which he attributes to the fantasy he's been conditioned to 'respond' to.
He now acts out of subconscious behavior. His nonverbal body language is saying all the wrong things to you because you have the same 'sexy' attributes as the social alpha models that he has put way above him.
None of this is natural, so until more men can see through your very real external behavior and appearance and getting things right themselves to be comfortable around you (which is up to them), there just may be fewer options of healthy men.
Help me spread the word! I'm teaching men to be REAL because the path to sex is with you as the woman. But when you find men like that, I recommend that you don't just treat him like the other ones.
Not all men have sex on their mind upfront. The one's who get it, know that it may happen in the future but it's really about a woman and what's she's going through.


Women Want a Real Man: Defined
A look into the popular adage of women wanting a 'real man'.


When women say they want a 'real' man, they mean it. They're tired of guys only being interested in 'one thing' and being so intimidated by them.
Single women are really looking forward to meeting a 'real man' that they've often forgot what to do if that real man comes along because it's all so conscious on the forefront of their
mind.
When you're a 'real man' around women, all kinds of interesting things happen.
But what does a 'real' man mean?
Notice how women say they like a man 'who is comfortable in his own skin'.
Let me clarify that some more. They want a man who is comfortable in his own skin 'in relation to THEM'. A man who is high in natural character and doesn't give up his power.
See, an everyday guy (who is a real man) can be comfortable in his own skin until he sees a glimpse of T&A under tight clothing right in front of him and he instantly drops into a conditioned behavioral response.
His relationship to his environment and her changes.
He actually drops in what I call 'character' around the woman.
He gets nervous, fidgety, his heart starts beating faster and he starts thinking about what to do, how to approach or what he would say to 'get' the prize.
The true relationship between then is already evident. She is the behavioral stimulus and he is the response.
Now if he just kept his relational independence in the first place, he'd be fine. THEN he would be a real man. It's all in the type of relationship he has with her.
When he is being himself without changing his behavior around women in any sense, then women can trust him physiologically.
Women can then naturally slip into the response mode because man is the stimulus in the mating game. He should be a constant stimulus who is always comfortable and all kinds of doors will open with women.
Since women are the response, they'll also 'respond' to the stimulus of these nervous, intimidated guys who are thrown off by her 'sexuality' and her very real behavior.
A woman just won't respond to them the way those men wanted her to respond.
It's more like 'Get away loser.'
Why? Apart from the reality that our women aren't behaving natural (which doesn't matter in success with them), it's because he wasn't being a 'real man'. He was in the wrong
relational dynamic with her.
It's obvious to see how this further hurts the male ego and self-esteem.
All of his behavioral uncomfort and the signals he sends is rooted in having an inaccurate alpha model of female sexuality in the first place.
He's been conditioned by the media and the world around him to be in the social relational dynamic with women instead of the natural relational dynamic.
It's up to the man to know that so he can get on the path to REAL physiological change and comfort around women. The woman doesn't care how he does it or who he is even, until
she sees that he is comfortable in his own skin in relation to her.
THAT is when it all begins.
Then she can trust him to be a constant 'stimulus' so that she is safe to open up and experience full-on natural attraction.
And this whole process usually happens within a few seconds often before he even sees her. She will have determined a lot of information about him up front because he is always communicating.
Don't you want to (always) be communicating the RIGHT signals that attract women?
Wouldn't it be great to actually BE equal in relational power to the most beautiful and desired women on earth?
These women are so used to the same old thing from men when they're not interested in them in the first place. You come along and be the guy that can make a casual connection with
them without any pretense and without ever giving up your power, you're going to melt some women right there.
The thing is, you can't act it. You have to be it because women 'know'. Finally there is a defined way to actually become a natural (back to your roots).
It's Alpha Relational Dynamics.
That's why I receive signals from women about everywhere I go while other guys don't. Their intuition knows that I am a real man who is comfortable in relation to their power and beauty.
THAT is something worth having. It's value because you're finally their equal (or greater)...then the excitement can begin and the women are the ones who are then in competition for the real man...not someone like you, you!


Sexploitation, Social Influence & It's Behavioral Effect
A look at an ever-important topic in today's dating and social reality; sexploitation and how it affects all kinds of relationships before they ever happen.


The blatant social or 'commercial' sexploitation of women and the negative sexual transmutation of men is reaching a breaking point.
This extra awareness and energy has to go SOMEWHERE. Guess where it goes? Out of your wallet.
It's getting dangerous. Fortunately most good men don't turn to outlets like rape but they transmute all of that diluted and aware energy into profitable (for others) outlets such as video games, mens' mags, fitness, self-improvement, career advancement, material gain and more
only to find that doesn't resolve their situation either.
They still want to 'screw' every hot woman in sight because they've become so 'aware' of the attributes of sexploitation.
After all they have become the conditioned response and the reality around them reinforces this relational belief.
They're so connected to it emotionally. They've given it so much 'added value' for the screen time it's given.
If it wasn't always 'in their face' and literally provoking them, exploiting their one 'weakness' they'd be comfortable, sane men like they were supposed to be and used to be.
The saturation point is even affecting preacher's and clergymen across the country.
T&A is blatantly and subtly being waved in front of our faces and people can't see what's really going on.
They see T&A everywhere and they are now responding to it unconsciously. They have been conditioned to be intimidated and afraid of a woman's body and sexual power whether she's
been on the cover of a magazine or not.
They've glorified this concept of sexuality so much that they've become like Jim in American Pie around all of the women they communicate with.
Bad news for other dating guru's but nothing they do or say is going to change the fact that they have the wrong relationship with women in the very first place.
Why is it like this? Why do millions of men not know how to deal with women anymore? Because the 'Architect's' were successful in their plan all along.
They influenced the behavior of men while dividing the sexes.
Massively profitable industries abound off of the new discontent and fantasy divergence of the sexes.
To uphold the social pressure/standard, women seek more fashion, more make-up, more man-repelling advice on how to be more out of his world. They also seek pent-up natural/emotional outlets such as romance novels (why do you think this industry is so big?), romantic comedies and ice cream with their small dog.
Separately, men seek all kinds of outlets to transmute the exploited sexual energy that they're so desirous of yet always seems out of reach.
Look at 'Tag' body spray. Look at beer commercials and men's magazines. All of it further duping people into the fantasy instead of reality. All of it is actually conditioning them
to BUY more instead of being effective in dating and relationships.
And when they do connect men are taught to do things such as buying her flowers, expensive gifts and expensive dinners. Not only is that not effective (trading money for her time) but all kinds of other people in society get to profit off of the business created. All kinds of money is blown to no extent.
What happened to just connecting with people naturally, being interdependent, not spending money on dates and instead focusing on each other? Wow. That wouldn't be very profitable for the people sending out all of the programming that builds up these dual fantasy worlds keeping men and women apart while not knowing how to behave around each other.
It's up to men to understand this mass commercialism, the types of messages they're sending and most importantly the causal influence that the wrong relationship (sponge conditioned response) with it has done.
The commercial sexploitation is going to reach a breaking point when enough men and women realize what is really going on.
Actually that is more up to the men. They are in a position to take their power back while women will continue to wait until there is a stimuli that makes it safe for them to change their behavior publicly again...back to one of more flirtatiousness instead of sexier 'better-than-thou' prickteasing.
Men like me who can create this safe natural reality around women are men who massively attract women because they know it's ok to be themselves again, to escape from the massive social
pressures and to experience happiness, emotion and attraction again. Why? Because as a man I am the stimulus in mating for women to respond to and open the path to a relationship.
The real answers to success with women lies in relational dynamics and behaviorism. By being aware of what commercial sexploitation is at it's roots and how it's altered our dynamics,
you can begin to take your power back and be successful with women and dating while actually saving money.